How to change your personality

+78 votes
asked Jan 10, 2018 in Relationships by VaughnCason2 (250 points)
edited Aug 6, 2018
We all have moments when we wish for a change. Essentially, my personality is an outward expression of my innermost emotions and thoughts. If I change my personality, could I change who I am as a person? Is it possible to change the qualities that make me unique?

2 Answers

+30 votes
answered May 21, 2019 by KobyGaddy29 (620 points)
edited Jul 30, 2019
Changing your personality may not be as simple as you think. Most people have personality types that are inborn and not able to be changed. It is possible to develop some qualities about yourself that change over time. However, there are certain personality traits that you are born with and cannot be gotten rid of easily.

For instance, someone who has been shy since elementary school is likely to retain that shyness throughout adulthood. For the most part, no environment is strong enough to change your most important personality traits, such as shyness and aggressiveness.

In fact, humans are told to “stick with one thing” and grow with it. All your life, you are told to choose the niche that makes you the most comfortable, whether it involves a career or a personality. So, changing who you are all of a sudden does not make sense to most people.
commented Oct 5, 2015 by Suelyn (810 points)
yeah i can only agree. i wonder why so many people want to know how to change your personality.
+7 votes
answered Jun 27, 2018 by NoeArnott31 (310 points)
edited Dec 16, 2018
Your personality works a lot like a chameleon – it adapts to the changing environment. Every time you visit a different location, you get involved with different people and engage in different activities. No two places in the world are the same. To fit in with the crowd, you behave in ways that you never thought you would.

For instance, you may notice that your new roommates like to bicycle to work every day. Soon enough, you discover that this new activity is both sensible and eco-friendly. You join your new friends to avoid being left out. Over time, you start to develop a liking to bicycling and develop a new personality trait that involves being physically active.

Another example occurs if you are a loner who enters an environment that allows you to gradually come out of your shell. No matter how many years you have become accustomed to living alone, within the right environment, you will become more socially active. A bustling metropolis area is usually more exciting than a quiet rural area. If you move to the city, you will show some interest in the nearby sights and sounds out of sheer curiosity.
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