How to deal with a narcissist?

+41 votes
asked Mar 6, 2018 in Relationships by CatherineBar (240 points)
edited Aug 1, 2019
One of my officemate is so high on himself. I think to the point of narcissism. He thinks that he is the best at everything. The worst part is that he seems to derive pleasure from seeing other fail just so he can show that he is the best.

4 Answers

+19 votes
answered Mar 23, 2019 by AlannahDonal (370 points)
edited Jul 23, 2019
I would say just ignore him. People like that are not worth your time. And knowing how a narcissist loves himself more than anything else, he is probably thinking the same about you. The reason he is bothering you is because he wants you to see how great, bright, or handsome he is. By ignoring his behavior you are showing him that he will not get anything out of you.
+7 votes
answered Jun 23, 2019 by PhilippLEstr (320 points)
edited Jun 28, 2019
Show him your displeasure with his attitude. We are not put into this earth to suffer rudeness even if that rudeness is borne out of some people’s natural tendencies. Maybe he still has a shred of decency left in his head and will leave you alone after he sees that you are not into his stupidities. That will at least show him that you are not happy with his actions. At work, that will also serve as a warning to him not to bother you further.
+3 votes
answered Jul 21, 2019 by BerndMcDowal (210 points)
edited Jul 30, 2019
How to deal with a narcissist is a difficult question to answer, especially if you are working closely with this narcissist. The problem is much worse if you are in a relationship with this kind of person.

The best way to deal with this person is to keep your composure at all times. Narcissistic people are naturally antagonistic and aggressive in pointing out how they are right and you are wrong. Don’t be rattled by this kind of attitude. Keep your cool and rationality. Don’t let your annoyance get the better of you. This is particularly important when you are facing this kind of people every day at work. You will only lose if you let a narcissist to get you out of your comfort zone.
+2 votes
answered Aug 28, 2018 by AlyssaDunbar (220 points)
edited Jul 20, 2019
Laugh it off. Your sense of humor will lighten the situation and hopefully, discourage the narcissistic person’s ego-centric attitude. Reply with a joke and point out how stupid or crazy he is acting. Though it may sound cruel at times, we just don’t know when exposing the stupidity of a person’s actions will have good results. Who knows, he will start to take himself lightly and laugh at your jokes too.
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