Why are boys so confusing?

Question

Boys drive me crazy! Not in the loving way, in every way they act. I have a guy that would always talk to me in class, meet me after school for lunch, flirt with me on the phone. Then he just disappears from my life! I don’t understand! Is it so hard to just tell me we aren’t going to friends anymore? Few days later I found out he has a girlfriend. That’s just stupid. I mean, oh my god, I can’t believe someone could just ditch a friend without even a single goodbye? He was all sweet to me all month, then all of sudden, nothing... Why are boys so confusing?

Answer 1

A woman asking why the way man function is confusing? That’s ironic, and also in a way sexist. Ask around and everyone will honestly say that women are more confusing. Then again, woman knows the way each other thinks, that’s why they are always either best friends or straight up nemesis, with a couple of alliances here and there, because sisterhood trumps all, but, I digress. Boys aren’t that confusing. They are transparent and single-minded to put it bluntly. For flirtatious guys, it’s all about risk and reward. If I flirt with this girl, can I get laid at the end? She has a boyfriend or already has someone in mind? Bail out now. It’s too much of a hassle anyway. If sisterhood exists in man circle, the brotherhood would be all about respect. If the girl says she has a boyfriend, he will back away, the girl is taken, he lost to another guy, he won’t fight over her. “Respect” doesn’t apply to some jerks, although, they are less confusing and just straight up bastards.

Answer 2

That guy being such an asshole doesn’t mean all boys are so confusing. You are just dealing with a player, and not that it’s bad or anything, but they are more manipulative. Flirts around with multiple girls, compliment their looks, and once they get hold of one, they disappear. Then he will find no need to talk again to the rest of the girls. Why should he? He already gets what he wants. Then you are free for grabs again, some guys will approach you and the whole cycle continues. Maybe a commitment issue on the guy’s part? Wants to do everything with you but not want to be considered an item by anyone. Sometimes it’s shyness, other times he just want you as a friend or keeping himself open for another girl. The same way girls will “friendzone” a guy. Sure you want a boyfriend like him, but you just want a boy that isn’t him.

Answer 3

Boys are always seen as someone with no emotion, you don’t look “cool” whining and crying. He has a pride to hold, bottling up all his emotions somewhere, everything is fine, but he just doesn’t show it. Cowardly I guess, but being sensitive is a sign of weakness. Immediately his standing with the rest of the guys will fall. Again, it’s that respect. Speaking of looking “cool”, having girls all dying for him is the ultimate goal for a guy, raising his standing amongst the rest of the guys you see. If you ever suspect him going all on you, scouting for a potential date, play hard to get. That will do either of the two things, he will just ignore you entirely or he will rabidly go after you. Now that you are in control, do your thing ladies.

Answer 4

Why are boys so confusing? But the shy guys are a different case. They just want a friend and maybe look for a long-lived relationship. They aren’t shy per say, but just more insecure about girls. Sure they might build up enough confidence to ask you on a date, and then the second never came. It just becomes a slow painful waiting game. He might expect you to be the one to initiate the second date. He just doesn’t know if you like him enough. That will totally convince him. Just don’t be afraid to be the one to start. It might be the sweetest relationship you ever have.