Why is my boyfriend so mean?

Question

I know relationship is not always perfect, like all the happily ever afters in fairy tales. But what if you’re dating a guy who’s really mean, like he’s emotionally manipulating you? I’m with my BF for a couple of months now, but his being mean makes me forget why I started dating him in the first place. See? I’m blaming myself now… don’t like this. What should I do?

Answer 1

Well, I don’t know if this is the case of your boyfriend being mean to you, but there’re some guys who take it as a fun game when they see their girlfriends get upset or angry by their behaviours. If you look closely, you’ll find he may be not only mean to you, but he’s mean to some of his friends too. If this is the case, he probably had a bad role model from his family, like his father or elder brother.

Answer 2

Yeah, like you said, you “think” he’s mean. But it’s totally different from he “is” mean. Have your ever told him your thoughts? It could be only you who suffers from this, and he has no clue that you are upset at all. Guys are not as sensitive as gals are, this you must know. So tell him how you feel and see what he says.

Comments

Why is my boyfriend so mean? If I were you, I won't even think over it, just move on.

Answer 3

Gal, you’re not the only one. I broke up with my ex because of this, I got tired of his twisted tricks and I can’t allow my self-esteem to be bashed away like that. Sometimes, I feel like there’s a thing about guys. They just like being mean to us. If we got upset or angry, they’ll beg us to forgive them and tell us how they love us and can’t live without us. If we bear with them, they’ll do just even more. Are they really that stupid to realize they’re being mean? I don’t think so. Maybe you should double think that you’re in love with him, or you just get used to being with him. If he cares for you, he won’t treat you like this. You need to have the “big” talk, if there’s no room to grow, then face it, and you deserve better!