Why isn't he texting me?

Question

I met a guy a couple weeks ago and I thought we really hit it off. For the first week, he would text me every day. Sometimes I was busy so I wouldn’t get right back to him but when I actually got around to getting back to him, we seemed to have great conversation. He has always initiated the conversations, hitting me up in a text. This last week though, things seemed to change. He didn’t text me for a couple days. I finally decided to text him. He texted right back and, as usual, we had great conversation. Now, it’s been another couple days, and he hasn’t texted me again. I’m not sure if he is even still interested. Do guys usually do this? Why would he just quit initiating texts?

Answer 1

Why isn't he texting me? It could be him. It could be you. Hard to tell without knowing either one of you. Here are some common reasons I found:

1. You could be pushing too hard. If you are acting like you are way into him and wanting more from him, you could be scaring him away. Let him chase you a little bit. Most guys don’t want a girl who acts all desperate.
2. Maybe he is interested in getting to know you but doesn’t want to push things any farther than that right now. Maybe he feels that if he constantly texts you, you may think he is more interested than he really is and doesn’t want you to have false hope, or think more or differently of how he really feels right now.
3. If you ask a lot of questions, he may feel put off. Guys like hanging and laughing. They don’t want to feel like they are in the spotlight in a quiz bowl. If you are constantly asking him questions (even simple ones like “What’s your favorite food?”), you may be making him feel defensive and you may want to back off a little.
4. He might be bored with you. Maybe you don’t share common interests or life goals that mean a lot to him. The chemistry might just not be there for him.
5. Maybe he’s really into you but trying not to look too intense about it. If he’s not really sure how you feel, he may be worried about coming on too strong to you. Ask him.
6. A couple weeks are a very short time. You may already feel connected but if you are getting too personal too soon, he may want to back off. You can’t rush something in just a couple weeks. It could definitely scare him off!
7. Maybe he’s just busy. He has a life outside and away from you. He has other time investments than just to someone he just met a couple weeks ago.
8. Or, maybe he really isn’t that into you. He may not see the two of you as anything more than a friendship….if that. 

Answer 2

Wow! Chill! This is not a big deal! If you want to talk to him so badly, text him! Damn! Is it really that difficult? Why does it matter who texts first? If you want it, go get it!

Answer 3

Maybe he felt like you weren’t interested. You said he would text you every day and you’d get back to him when you got around to it. What’s that really show the guy? I would take it as he isn’t that interested…..time to move on. A couple weeks ain’t nothing. There’s no ties. If you act like you’re not gonna make him a priority….he’s gonna give up and not make you a priority.

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